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Do you have people in your life that seem to shroud themselves in drama? It’s almost as if they need to be in the middle of an unbearable catastrophe in order to function in their day-to-day lives. Take a moment to look at the company you keep and evaluate how many drama-lovers you find.

We are a reflection of the people we surround ourselves with — take a moment to look within and decide if you are a part of the crowd that creates and lives amongst the drama. If we’re all being really honest, each and every one of us would be nodding our heads, knowing we fall victim to this. See if any of the below resonate with you.

  • Someone is always out to get you: The coworker that dropped the ball on his portion of the project, the older man that cut you off, the server that forgot to leave the tomatoes off of your salad. Is your first reaction to get angry with these people? Many of us feel like their intent was to offend or upset us. We yell at them, flip them the bird or whisper bad things about them behind their backs. When you really think about it, or maybe even ask them, we discover it wasn’t about us at all — so why do we take it upon ourselves to be so bothered?
  • Reading into something that isn’t there: Times have changed, and the way we communicate now is very different from the way our grandparents did. Texts and tweets and emails. … These allow for a lot of lapses in emotion and judgement. Without eye contact and voice inflection, we are left with a big window to interpret how someone is communicating. If you find yourself upset by the wording of an email, first stop and ask yourself why you’re bothered, and then reach out to the person and ask for clarity. There are so many times I find myself in this situation — then come to find out I was manifesting feelings and emotions that were never implied by the sender.
  • The conversation inevitably turns to someone that is not present: Crazy Aunt Sally and her decision to adopt an 11th cat or the neighbor whose recycling bin is always full of wine bottles — the second you find the conversation turning into a judgement against someone that isn’t around to share in the conversation, you’re entering a terribly toxic zone. Remember, the person you are speaking negatively about is your mirror. Stop pointing the finger at them and look internally to understand why their life choices bother you.

Once we can let go of some of the entirely unnecessary drama and toxic behavior we hold on so tightly to, our lives will feel a whole lot simpler — resulting in a whole lot of happy.

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