The author Byron Katie coined one of my favorite quotes: “It’s not your job to like me. It’s mine.” Exactly.
The best piece of advice I can give is to be happy with who you are — and I don’t just mean with how you look on the outside. Be happy with what you do, with your views, your beliefs, everything. Don’t spend valuable time wondering what other people think. There are people out there who are going to judge you, but if you can learn to be happy with yourself, it will be so much easier to ignore what others have to say. Some things to remember:
• Stay confident. Everyone has insecurities, but try to focus on the things you love about yourself.
• Learn to appreciate your uniqueness and flaws. Embrace what makes you, you. This may not happen right away, but one day you’ll love those “flaws” — and you’ll rock them.
• Remember how lucky you are to be you, and be grateful for what you have. If you constantly stress about the things you want to change, you’ll never be fully happy.
• It’s not just about your own happiness — tell others how incredible they are, too. Spread the love and the love will spread back to you tenfold.
What are some other tips you have for being confident?
More things to add to my daily affirmations…
I try to start each day with finding at least one positive thing about me, and tell it to myself in the mirror. Even on the days that it seems impossible to find anything good, find the smallest thing, whether it’s damn my nails look good today to the best I look beautiful today inside and out.
Stay away from illierates or gop members as all they have in life is hate.
Sometimes these people are both.
Be yourself as i have a clear conscience at night do you?
If they wont stop being annoying the computer is good tp take everything they own for good.
Only way a hater leaarns
The hard way
Robert ny
thanks for the advice the advice I would give Is don’t be shy and be yourself
Listen to you and all your positive thinking
100% Truth
love your wed look beautiful
I love this. I may print it and read it everyday. You’ve got some great stuff.
Needed this advice today. Thank you. ?
I admire you for being yourself, your own person and happy that Donnie accepts you for who you are. Love deep, forgive quickly,for life is short
Thank you for your healing and humor. I love your wisdom all your books and your radio show. God bless you always. You are a healer.
I know positive things about me. I may drive my grandkids crazy, but every time they leave I tell them “I love you.”I am a glass is always full person, everything will be ok.
My major problem is my weight, I am insecure about it. I need to loose weight and I find it the most difficult thing I have ever tried, perhaps because I have not been successful.
I want to be loved. TMI
Sorry I went off on something unrelated to the subject.
Sometimes, you just have to give yourself the pep-talks. Like hello, you are a bad-ass bitch don’t be sad. You’re doing great. Love u!!!
So true! ?
Thanks Jenny, I needed to read this today. I just love you and Donnie and all the positivity you two spread every day.
Be yourself at all times, be careful who you be around because they can bring your confidence down! Love yourself & always help others to grow to find their confidence…love others as you would love yourself! Learn how to turn the diva switch on when need it! Lol No matter what your wearing rock your outfit like there is no tomorrow!
Took me about 50 years, but I really and truly love my very unique ways. If someone kids me, I just say, “I gotta be me!”
Thank you Jenny. All of your tips are great and sometimes I do them. I must do them more often. Talking to myself and following up is very hard. When I accept myself and tell myself I have value as a person it makes me feel good from the inside out.
Random question, what kind of glasses are those?
I’ve learned to love my body. I look at myself in the mirror…something I never did unless I had to. But like this morning, I had my tunes on and I danced and watched myself and laughed and did a bootie shake and just…loved myself. Because I can 🙂 a year ago I couldn’t do it without feeling disgusted. But now… *shrugs shoulders* I’m me. It’s what I got and I’m grateful to have my curves 🙂
Thank you Jenny, you are truly an inspiration. I was having trouble finding the sweet spot in my mind and heart today. I read this and it put me on the right track.
Be positive every day and wake up every day with a loving heart and a smile on your face! 😀
Surround yourself with love….
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could help even more people see all humans as humans. We are all one in the same.
Loved this! I remembered a saying growing up, that says, “Don’t spend time wishing you were somebody else, make others wish they were you instead.” By being the best version of yourself and being happy with who you are will make others wish they had that same confidence in themselves. And what better way than to share those tips with them to help their self confidence to build as well? A happy life is a well lived life.
All FAB pieces of advice Jenny!
Do what you have fun doing, free yourself a bit more each day and confidence happens more and more naturally. I’m learning this steadily on my neat journey.
Thanks for sharing and hey, wonderful blog 🙂
Ryan
Have integrity & always do the right thing. When my head hits the pillow at night, I have tried my best to do the right thins and keep my integrity. That in itself makes it easier for me to be a happy and positive person!
Smile. Don’t forget to smile, it really is important.
Well, this a good one, Confidence is something that i have had trouble with for the most part i am confident in who i am and i have learned over the years to love myself and never really cared what everyone else thought or still thinks of me.
The confidence in me changed when i moved to California on my own from Boston , just to see what could accomplish, well not as much as i had hoped but, i have a son now and he needs to know that Mom is a strong, beautiful women who is and can concore the world!!He believe’s i am wonder women,so be it!, but in on the inside i sometimes not feel very confident.
Over all i think i am who i am and no one can take that away from me.
Loved reading your blog Vote of Confidence!! I have an 11 year old stepdaughter that I try everyday to build confidence within herself and to have her really see just how beautiful she is on the inside and outside☺. I’m showing her your blog too!
Love this post! Confidence comes from within by remembering who you truly are and that you are on your path and others are on theirs. Follow your passions and share your gifts. Do things for yourself and others from love rather than fear. Shine with grace and gratitude! Have fun and laugh often. Love your wisdom Jenni xx