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Every single one of us, at one time or another, has held a grudge against someone — it’s human nature. It’s just so much easier to be bitter about something than to let it blow over, but we’re not doing ourselves any favors by holding onto those grudges, no matter how big or small they may be. While it’s easier said than done to forgive and forget, it’s always best to at least try — and, of course, to look inside yourself to figure out why you’re harboring these feelings.

The best way to let go of a grudge is to literally get it all out from inside of you. Tell a friend, write it in your journal — it doesn’t matter how you do it, just don’t keep it bottled up in your mind. Make sure to acknowledge why you’re still angry over the situation and then decide if it’s really worth it. Something as small as a family member not apologizing to you over something silly most definitely isn’t worth the time and stress; try talking to them about it and then just let it go.

Depending on the severity of the situation, holding a grudge can really make or break a friendship. At some point, you have to decide if you want to mend the relationship and get over it, or if the negativity outweighs the good in the relationship. Just don’t allow yourself to string someone along because you can’t make up your mind about whether or not you can let it go. You need to know when to call it quits.

The most important part of letting go of a grudge is moving forward. Once you’ve chosen to forgive or move on, don’t allow the grudge to creep back in. Never try to rehash the situation, because it will only bring back all of the negative feelings — and then you’re back at square one.

Try not to sweat the small stuff, and keep in mind that we’re all human and we’re all going to make mistakes, what really matters is how we handle ourselves when those mistakes are made.

What are some ways you’ve dealt with your own grudges? Did you get over them or are you still holding on and why?

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